Six Months

My friend’s spouse died
Shortly after they wed.
She once told me:

Six months after his death,
I looked back and thought,
Wow, I was really not doing well
When he died.

And six months later,
I looked back and thought,
Wow. I thought I was doing well
At six months, but I was still
Really grieving.

That happened for two years,
Where I would think I was fine,
But looking back after six months,
I actually wasn’t.

I don’t think grief is something you manage.