Circles of Bereavement

In the center: the person closest to trauma.
In the next ring: the inner circle.
The third ring: those next closely affected.
The fourth ring: progressively less connected.

The rule: only direct your grief to outer circles.

If you are in the center, you can speak to any and all.
But if you are on the outside, do not speak inward.
Do not pile grief on grief.